Do you ever feel Invisible?

Do you ever feel Invisible?

For many years I struggled to gain traction in my own career, and to more profoundly impact others with my gifts.

I’d launched my coaching practice and was offering workshops, only to end up coaching people without charging them and begging my friends to come to my events because only two paying participants had enrolled!

I didn’t feel that what I had to contribute was seen or valued by others or by the world, and I was deeply confused as to why—in spite of my intelligence, hard work and commitment—I wasn’t having more success or being offered more opportunities.

 This is what it feels like to have an inner glass ceiling, bumping up against an invisible barrier to your success, regardless of your efforts.

I deeply sensed my own potential to teach and to serve, and when I would go to conferences and events, I’d hear the speakers share their ideas and I’d have a knowing that I, too, had something valuable to contribute.

 I also doubted myself and feared that maybe this belief was a bit arrogant because I hadn’t really had any external validation that it was true.

 It was just a knowing I had inside me.

 I wanted to express my voice and yet I constantly felt invisible.

 I even had a whole long, sad, victimized story about why I wasn’t getting the opportunities I so desperately longed for.

But then I discovered the Power Center One Practices that I now teach in our Feminine Power courses… 

And as a result, I was able to identify the specific ways I was showing up that were actually the true cause of my experience.

It was nothing short of a revelation.

OMG, I could instantly see that I wasn’t getting the opportunities I wanted because I was actually disappearing myself!

It turned out I had a core belief that I was essentially invisible, and my way of showing up was that I would disappear my own thoughts and feelings, and just mirror other people completely.

 Whenever I was with another person, they wouldn’t be able to see me, because they were simply having a deeper experience of themselves in the mirror I was holding up for them.

No wonder I was creating this chronic experience of invisibility for myself everywhere I went!

So after I unlocked the first of 3 Feminine Power centers, I was able to, for the first time, fully connect to the truth of who I was, and from there I took responsibility for showing up in new ways that were reflective of that truth.

 And the truth was that I do have a valuable contribution to make.

I’d spent my whole life waiting to be discovered—waiting for other people to find their way into my world, intuit the value of what I had to contribute, and then respond to my needs and desires.

But the truth was that other people can’t know my feelings, needs and desires unless I share them and make them visible. 

So to break through this inner glass ceiling, I gave up this old way of showing up and instead took responsibility to begin to presence myself in all my relationships and in the world.

 I took the weaker part of me that had been stuck for so long and connected it to the deeper part of me that knew how much I had to offer…and I became responsible for generating my own visibility.

 And then a really wild thing happened. 

A few weeks later, I was hosting a dialogue series—our first “Women on the Edge of Evolution” conference—and the first person I had to interview was one of the great woman teachers of our time.

I was so in awe of her, but I knew my challenge was, as always, to show up in ways that were consistent with the truth of who I was.

So that meant letting go of my old way of playing small and simply mirroring people to try to please them.

I knew I had to be a gracious host, of course, and offer some of that mirroring and reflection, but I also needed to be fully engaged in the dialogue as my complete empowered self.

About halfway through the interview, this woman said to me, “Claire, I have to speak to you privately tomorrow. Call me on my private line.”

So of course I did, though I was a little nervous as I dialed the phone.

When she came on the line, she proceeded to reflect back to me what she’d seen during the previous day’s interview, and it turned out that she’d really seen me.

She said “Claire, you have a great destiny, a great calling of leadership in the empowerment of women, and I want to support you and stand with you. Come visit me at my home.”

 And when I did, she proceeded to share with me a much larger vision for me than I was able to see or hold myself at that time…

Then she opened up her rolodex and called and emailed every powerful, influential woman leader she knew and encouraged them to join me in the “Women on the Edge of Evolution” conference.

And out of that, the platform for Feminine Power expanded to reach hundreds of thousands of women, and the company I founded, Evolving Wisdom, became recognized as one of the top 100 fastest growing companies in America, reaching over a million people.

All of this came out of that moment when I brought who I truly was into alignment with how I was showing up in the world…and everything changed.

Now, it’s your turn!

I couldn’t generate my visibility, my contribution, or my impact from inside my old pattern, and neither can you.

And what’s at stake in breaking through these barriers is nothing less than your entire life and destiny. 

Discover how you can begin to Break Through Your Own INNER GLASS Ceiling. Read the Feminine Power Breakthrough ebook now.

In My Dark Night of the Soul, This Shift Changed Everything…

In My Dark Night of the Soul, This Shift Changed Everything…

I know that many women in our community are going through challenging times right now. 

I want to share something very personal with you today about my dark night of the soul—and the break-through that changed my life forever… 

A little over 10 years ago, I was nearly out of money, I had no way of making a living that was aligned with my values, I was in a terrible relationship, and I felt creatively frustrated and stuck.

Worst of all, I felt abandoned by life and had lost all faith.

I was in a dark night of the soul, and I thought it would never end.

In spite of more than a decade of investing in my personal and spiritual growth, I hadn’t been able to create a life that matched what I knew was my higher potential.

I had accomplished some great things, but when I looked more closely at those achievements, I realized that everything I’d done had been about supporting someone else’s dream and not my own.

I knew I had unique gifts and talents inside me, and my deepest yearning was to make a difference in the lives of others, but I had no idea what that would look like or how to go about creating a life that expressed it.

Late one night, in my bedroom by candlelight, in the darkest and most painful hour of that “dark night of the soul,” I prayed for guidance and received a very clear message.

I heard a voice that I recognized as deep inner knowing say to me:

“Claire, you must believe that life supports you, even though you can’t feel it and you don’t have any evidence for it . . .

You must make choices and take actions as though you believe all of creation supports your success.”

It was a mystical experience . . .

I woke up the next morning and asked myself this question:

“What would I do if I really believed that life supported me and wanted me to succeed?”

My immediate answer was to go rent an office space and restart the coaching business I had given up 5 years earlier.

It didn’t make any logical sense, since I was out of money and didn’t even know anyone in Los Angeles, where I had just moved to from my home in Australia.

But I listened, and with my last $1000, I went and rented an office.

I know it sounds crazy—it’s against everything most of us have learned about how to make decisions and create success.

Within a year, I’d created a thriving coaching practice and teaching career. I had gotten out of that nightmare relationship I was in, and I had met my soulmate and the love of my life, who’s now my husband, Craig.

From there, a few years into our relationship, Craig and I formed our company Evolving Wisdom, which in the last 5 years alone has had over a million people participate in our online programs and was recognized by INC. Magazine as one of the top 100 fastest growing companies in America.

I’ve also had the privilege of leading a global tribe of thousands of extraordinary women from more than 100 countries in my own programs.

I am now working and playing with many of the top leaders in the transformational world. The people I’d admired and looked up to for so many years have become close friends and colleagues.

I have a blessed life, with the freedom to travel and work in some of the most beautiful places on the planet on a regular basis, such as the San Francisco Bay Area, Lake Tahoe and Santa Cruz. 

Recently I was also able to realize my life-long dream of becoming a philanthropist by donating $100,000 to the Just Like My Child Foundation’s Girl Power Project, a leadership and self-esteem training for adolescent girls in the developing world that helped over 10,000 young women develop skills to step into their power.

I feel profoundly self-expressed and living on-purpose on my destiny path.

Some days I wake up and I feel like I need to pinch myself because everything I ever most deeply desired has come to be in my life.

I only share all of this to illustrate how unrecognizable my life is today from that dark night 10 years ago.

How did this all happen?

One answer: I discovered Feminine Power.

And it changed everything.

And it can change everything for you, too.

To get you started, I have a few important questions for you:

Have you ever had a dark night of the soul where your life was just not working?

In spite of your best efforts, do you feel there’s a gap between what you’re experiencing in your relationships, your work and your prosperity compared with the potential you sense for these areas of your life?

Do you sense that you have unique gifts and talents the world has never seen before and may never see again after you’re gone?

And, in your clearest moments, do you sense you might actually have a role to play in shaping the future of our world—even though you might not know what that looks like?

If you’re feeling this way, I have some good news: you are not alone.

Most women we know are having this experience, too.

In fact, if you’re having this experience, it’s a symptom that something big is awakening inside you… 

Why is it that in spite of all our accomplishments and skills, we still struggle to realize our potential?

Most of us feel like our struggles to fulfill those potentials and get our gifts out into the world are the result of some kind of personal failure.

But what if our challenges and struggles aren’t personal at all?

What if they have less to do with our personal shortfalls and more to do with the system of power we’ve grown up in and are surrounded by in our culture?

When you look up the word “power” in the dictionary, you’ll see it defined as “to do, to act, to accomplish, to make things happen,” and even: “to exert force over others!”

The very way we conceive of power in our world culture at large is a Masculine system sourced from logical, linear, strategic thinking.

This kind of power is valuable and useful for a certain set of things. For anything that is predictable and controllable, anything you can create with a step-by-step plan, the Masculine power system is definitely the way to go!

For the last 50 years, women have been mastering a Masculine system of Power.

The only problem is that the things we’re now most yearning for such as true love, intimacy, connection, belonging, creativity, self-expression, radiance, aliveness, meaning, contribution, purpose, and a brighter future for generations to come—none of these can be created exclusively with a power system that’s based on control, analysis and logical, linear thinking, nor can it be executed with a step-by-step strategic plan.

Something big and new is waking up in us for the first time in human history, and we are yearning for something more than simply to achieve success and accomplish goals.

We don’t want to just have a nice house, a nice car, and get the guy—as wonderful as those things are.

We’re yearning to realize our higher creative potentials, too—our higher destiny. We want to discover and actualize our gifts in service to something larger than ourselves.

We want to become authentically confident and visible, create loving, growth-oriented relationships, discover our purpose, feel at home, healthy vital in our bodies, create prosperous career aligned with our values, manifest our desires for fun, adventure and play, awaken spiritually; we want to fully become the women we were born to be!

To do that, we need another system of power—a Feminine system—a system that’s intuitive, creative and magnetic, and which enables us to create those things that can’t be controlled with a step-by-step plan.

When you begin to create from the Feminine system, what you’ll notice right away is that there is more magic in your life.

Things will start to accelerate and there will be a sense of flow. You’ll have more synchronicity, and everything you could possibly need to take your next steps will seem to simply come to you.

I believe that making the shift to Feminine Power is the single most important shift every conscious woman who’s called to a larger life can make. 

When I discovered this, I made it my mission and life’s work to give women access to the most powerful tools inside a program designed to awaken their Feminine Power…  

Will you let me show you can begin to Unlock Feminine Power in your own life?

Download the Feminine Power Breakthrough ebook now. 

Why Capable Women Often Feel Powerless (to create the things we most deeply yearn for).

Why Capable Women Often Feel Powerless (to create the things we most deeply yearn for).

There’s a gut-wrenching “power-paradox” millions of women are finding themselves in….

On the one hand, we are feeling called to a much larger life, one of higher creativity, purpose, love, vitality, wellbeing, leadership, influence and impact….

Yet at the same time we also feel powerless or even helpless to create these things we yearn for!

And it’s painful and confusing, because we’re smart, conscious, caring women with more opportunities than any other generation in history–yet it feels like there’s “something more” that we can’t quite reach.

I call the experience of pain, confusion, depression of this gap “unsung song syndrome.”

Women from all walks of life are suffering from it.

Whether they’re coaches or mothers, artists or teachers, authors or high court judges– from producers and performers, to entrepreneurs and so many more.

I had one client who was literally a rocket scientist, who was suffering from the syndrome — this deep sense of “something more,” without clarity as to how to bring it forth.

However the truth is, our struggles come from the fact that we’ve been playing an unwinnable game.

Based on my past two decades of research, and work with the tens of thousands of women in my programs, I’ve discovered that the struggle you’ve been having is not your own fault or failure, but part of a much larger story of women awakening to their power.

And today, I want to invite you to see your own experience as part of this much larger story — so that you can see and discover the way out and through!

Let’s take a look at what the research has to say about this “Power Paradox.”

Women in the West today have truly become the most autonomous, free, independent, educated, and powerful generation in recorded history….

  • We’re being heralded as saviors of the global economy, having become decision makers with over a trillion dollars of annual spending power
  • We’re now the primary breadwinners in many American households
  • We’re even graduating in higher numbers from college than men
  • We also have the freedom to create any kind of relationship we want to have in our lives . . .from marriage to living together to having multiple partners
  • We’ve been launching businesses at a higher rate than men for years now . . . 3 times higher than men
  • Women in leadership positions in corporations create success at higher levels on every measure
  • We also comprise the majority in self-development programs, and spiritual communities
  • The Dalai Lama even prophesied that WE “Western women are going to save the world.”

There’s a sense that something big is possible . . . we have a grand calling and great destiny.

Although we’re the most educated, powerful generations of women in history, and studies are showing that we’re less happy, and more lonely and depressed than we’ve ever been . . .

  • Over 20% of women are on antidepressants (not counting those of us who feel unhappy and unfulfilled and are not on antidepressants).  
  • 5 percent of us have an unhealthy relationship with food or our bodies, and when you count those of us who complain about our thighs, that figure goes up to about 98%.
  • Studies are showing that as many as 50% of us are living alone, and those who do have partners, surprisingly, are having way less sex than our grandmothers!
  • 6 out of 10 women of experience overwhelming financial stress—many to the point where we can’t sleep at night—and not sleeping is the #1 cause of chronic illness!
  • And even though we are starting businesses at higher rates a staggering 95% of us never break through the six-figure barrier, or go on to have the larger impact we want to have, or make the contributions we desire to make.

What the %$#& is going on here?!?!

Why is it that in spite of all of the accomplishments and skills that we have, that we still struggle to realize our potential?

For the last 50 years, women have been embracing and mastering a Masculine system of Power.

When you look up the word “power” in the dictionary, you’ll see it defined as “to do, to act, to accomplish, to make things happen,” and even: “to exert force over others!”

The very way we conceive of power in our world and culture at large is a Masculine system sourced from logical, linear, strategic thinking.

This kind of power is valuable and useful for a certain set of things.

For anything that is predictable and controllable, anything you can create with a step-by-step plan, the Masculine power system is definitely the way to go!

Something historic and unprecedented is happening for millions of women on the planet.

We are leading a new stage of evolution.

You know you’re a part of this historic and world-changing group of women, because deep down you feel an impulse to reach higher.

You don’t just want to survive.

Nor do you want to achieve for achievement’s sake (even though you know you deserve to make a prosperous living and have successful life)!

You sense you have greatness within you and feel a burning yearning to become all you can be.

I call this yearning the impulse to realize your DESTINY.

It’s the DESTINY of an acorn to become an oak tree.

It’s the DESTINY of a rose seed to become a rose.

We don’t simply want to succeed where men have succeeded, nor do we want to go back to traditional female roles of staying home and raising a family. Combining these two into some elusive “work-life balance,” doesn’t cut it for many of us, either.

For the first time in human history, women on masse have the freedom to connect with their deepest yearnings– for creative fulfillment, for love, for authentic self-confidence, for making a meaningful impact.

And while there’s a long way to go with gender equality, and having access to the same social power (that #metoo and #timesup address) there’s something even bigger happening right now for millions of us.

We are aligning with A NEW NORTH STAR— Self-Actualization.

We want to become authentically confident and visible; to create loving, growth-oriented relationships’ discover our purpose; feel at home, healthy  & vital in our bodies; to create prosperous careers aligned with our values; manifest our desires for fun, adventure and play; awaken spiritually–in short, we want to fully become the women we were born to be!

If humanity is like a pot filled with kernels of popcorn on the fire, we’re among the first to pop — we’re ‘early poppers’!

So, I INVITE you to see yourself as a pioneer,  you’re a trailblazer, dare I even say a visionary!

Even if you don’t see yourself this way —- you’re feeling the impulse to REACH HIGHER without really having a choice about it.

You’ve had a lot of courage to leave behind the known world, or to not follow traditional paths, and align with your soul’s calling, even in the midst of struggles and challenges:

If you’re struggling with finances, it’s not because you can’t get just get a job — it’s because you’re to seeking to find a way to make a living aligned with your values.

If you’re struggling with relationships,  it’s not because you can’t find “someone: to just procreate with — you’re wanting a much greater possibility of intimacy with a true soulmate, someone who can “meet you on all levels.”

If you’re struggling with health challenges and self-care — paradoxically it may be because your circle of care has expanded beyond yourself and even your family to our larger world, and it’s hard to know how to prioritize meeting all the needs you’re serving.

If you’re struggling to find your purpose — it’s likely because you have so many gifts and options, there are so many things you’re gifted at but

These are NEW PROBLEMS pointing to new opportunities at this new level of self-actualization.

The real problem at this new level is that masculine system of power doesn’t work, which is why we feel powerless to create the the things we’re now most yearning for— none of these things can be created exclusively with a power system that’s based on control and  analysis, and logical, linear thinking, nor can they be executed with a step-by-step strategic plan.

To do that, we need another system of power—a Feminine system—a system that’s intuitive, creative and magnetic, and which enables us to create those things that can’t be created solely through strategic thinking alone, or managed and controlled using a step-by-step plan.

When I discovered this, I made it my mission to discover how to awaken this new Feminine system of power.

And it totally transformed my own life, and the lives of tens of thousands of women…

I’m honored to have had the chance to guide many thousands of women to awaken their Feminine Power, and have created the most effective, research-based training to support you to gain the this power– the power you need to manifest and create at the level of self-actualization.

Discover how you can begin to Unlock Feminine Power in your own life and download the Feminine Power Breakthrough ebook here.